One of the most common mistakes we make when trying to let go of our past is to look outside ourselves for the answer.  We have a tendency to believe that when our circumstances change the past will no longer haunt us.  When we get a different job, move to another place, get a better car or house, or when our offender apologizes we falsely believe all will be well.    This is just not true.   Continue reading What’s Your Perspective?

Have you ever put a screw into something and before long it had worked itself loose.  Using a screwdriver you tightened the screw again and the same thing happened.  You tried the same approach, without permanent success, until finally you realized that the trouble wasn’t the screw but rather the hole it was in.  So you looked at the issue from a different perspective, identified the problem, and then selected the right tool for the task.   Continue reading What’s In Your Toolbox?

People in all walks of life use tools to accomplish certain tasks.  Teachers use blackboards, programmers use computers, carpenters use levels, doctors use stethoscopes, mechanics use wrenches, engineers used slide rules, manufacturers use robots, writers use pens, artists use brushes, and dentists use drills.  While the knowledge to perform each task is in their heads, their ability to perform their jobs is reliant on the use of specific tools.  Some tools help build or create, while others help to disassemble, repair, mend, or fix something.  No matter what the profession all users keep their tools at their finger tips, ready and on the spot.  Continue reading Why Use Tools

Think about the times you purchased a television or cell phone, a car or DVD player, a computer or refrigerator, or any other item with multiple parts.  Included with your purchase was an owner’s manual; a step by step guidebook on what to do before you operate the item, how to put the item together, how to use it, repair it, troubleshoot a problem, replace a part, and who to contact for technical help.  Continue reading Why “The Today Manual?”

While I don’ know your past, more than likely you are holding on to what happened to you long ago.  Or possibly it was something someone said to or about you.  Maybe it was a divorce, financial failure, some form of abuse, loss of a job, being abandoned by a parent or partner.  Maybe it was being told when you were young, “You will never amount to anything,” or “You are stupid.”  Just as I was, you too may be stuck, unable to release and heal from your experiences. Continue reading Let’s Get Started

You and I are alike.  We have both lived through hurtful, disappointing, and traumatic events in our lives; situations wherein we were harmed by the actions or words of another or by outside circumstances such as a disaster.  Although the particulars of what you and I experienced were different, we both felt damaged in some way.  Continue reading The Who, What, Why & When of Letting Go of Your Past

YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE BUT YOUR PAST

Your task is to let go of from your past.

You are probably saying to yourself, “Yea, easier said than done!  I’ve tried for years to let go of what happened and it’s not possible.” 

If only for a nanosecond, believe that no matter what you age or experience you have the power inside you to let go of your past.   Continue reading The Task at Hand

Several years ago I heard a speaker say that if you want to find your passion in life you must first ask yourself, “What is it that breaks my heart?”  It is in answering this question you will find your passion and purpose.   Continue reading What Breaks Your Heart

My dog Baby had the habit of sitting behind me as I ate breakfast. One morning I got up from my chair and I noticed that my black slacks were coated with her hair. I wet a paper towel, began to brush off her hair, and realized that like Baby, I too, needed to shed the old, to let go of the past. Continue reading How “Today” Began

At the age of 61 I was stuck in my past; reliving childhood incidents in my mind, thinking about what could or should have been, hoping for a different ending to the story of my past, and allowing what happened years ago to affect my current thoughts, actions, and reactions. Continue reading Welcome