The Today Manual

One of the most common mistakes we make when trying to let go of our past is to look outside ourselves for the answer.  We have a tendency to believe that when our circumstances change the past will no longer haunt us.  When we get a different job, move to another place, get a better car or house, or when our offender apologizes we falsely believe all will be well.    This is just not true.   Read the rest of this entry »

Have you ever put a screw into something and before long it had worked itself loose.  Using a screwdriver you tightened the screw again and the same thing happened.  You tried the same approach, without permanent success, until finally you realized that the trouble wasn’t the screw but rather the hole it was in.  So you looked at the issue from a different perspective, identified the problem, and then selected the right tool for the task.   Read the rest of this entry »

Think about the times you purchased a television or cell phone, a car or DVD player, a computer or refrigerator, or any other item with multiple parts.  Included with your purchase was an owner’s manual; a step by step guidebook on what to do before you operate the item, how to put the item together, how to use it, repair it, troubleshoot a problem, replace a part, and who to contact for technical help.  Read the rest of this entry »

While I don’ know your past, more than likely you are holding on to what happened to you long ago.  Or possibly it was something someone said to or about you.  Maybe it was a divorce, financial failure, some form of abuse, loss of a job, being abandoned by a parent or partner.  Maybe it was being told when you were young, “You will never amount to anything,” or “You are stupid.”  Just as I was, you too may be stuck, unable to release and heal from your experiences. Read the rest of this entry »

YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE BUT YOUR PAST

Your task is to let go of your past.

You are probably saying to yourself, “Yea, easier said than done!  I’ve tried for years to let go of what happened and it’s not possible.” 

If only for a nanosecond, believe that no matter what you age or experience you have the power inside you to let go of your past.   Read the rest of this entry »

At the age of 61 I was stuck in my past; reliving childhood incidents in my mind, thinking about what could or should have been, hoping for a different ending to the story of my past, and allowing what happened years ago to affect my current thoughts, actions, and reactions. Read the rest of this entry »